I used to buy into the lies we tell ourselves about toxic relationships. Tell me if any of these sound familar?
- He really loves you in his own way.
- She’d be there for you if her life wasn’t so stressful.
- He loves you. He just doesn’t know how to show it.
- She loves you. She’s just been hurt before.
A funny thing happened as I worked on myself and got healthier (physically and emotionally) and happier. The people I chased and made excuses for never changed.
They still didn’t make an effort. They still had criticisms and judgement at the ready. Worst of all, they still preferred gossiping about me to talking to me.
Eventually, I just stopped investing in those relationships and started investing in the relationships with people who showed me everyday that they cared and wanted to be in my life.
I was accused of abandoning people and not caring, but by that point, I had discovered my own self-worth and acknowledged that phones work both ways.
These days, my life is filled with people who actually want to be in it. Love is unconditional and mutual. If it’s anything les, it isn’t really love.
